Angee's Health and Wellness CoachingI am glad you are here. You are searching for answers. In this blog I am writing about life experiences we all go through. You need to understand the experiences we go through in life influence the choices we make and are fundamental in shaping our identity and who we become.
What I have learnt is that the choices we make create our lives and decisions build the future. Every encounter and decision influences our thoughts, values, and behaviours, contributing to the development of our identity. If you are unsure why your life is the way it is be aware that you are what you create.
Every choice you’ve made has led you to this point. The habits you develop, the people you surround yourself with, and the boundaries you set (or don’t set), all play a role in forming the person you are today.
Think of it this way: if you’re building a house, every decision about the materials, the layout, and the design will determine how sturdy and comfortable that house will be. In the same way, your life is built brick by brick through your daily decisions. If you neglect certain areas, like self-care, meaningful relationships, or pursuing your passions, the “house” of your life may feel incomplete or unstable.
These experiences guide us in making informed choices, and our decisions reflect and shape our identity. Together, they are crucial in defining our uniqueness and guiding us towards the person we become.
Instead of labelling experiences as simply good or bad, it’s a good start to view them as essential parts of our journey that contribute to our individuality. Circumstances we come across are in some way opportunities to experience and grow.
Each experience, whether negative or positive, adds a unique outlook to our personal growth and self-understanding. By accepting all experiences as influential elements of our existence, we recognise their role in forming our identity and guiding our development. This perspective helps us appreciate how triumphs and difficulties work together to create the rich mix of who we are.
Here is a Scenario of Mufaro’s journey to better health:
Mufaro had always struggled with her weight, fluctuating between different diets and exercise routines over the years. Her past experiences included childhood memories of being picked on for her size, creating an identity that she is not good enough and adult experiences of trying numerous weight-loss fads. These experiences contributed to a cycle of frustration and self-doubt.
Over time, Mufaro realized she was in a never-ending pursuit of happiness. She decided it was time to turn things around. Instead of continuing to focus solely on weight loss, she began to reflect on her past experiences and how they had shaped her beliefs about herself.
She also realized that her self-worth had been heavily influenced by external validation and societal standards that she had been carrying for most of her life. This understanding led her to focus on developing a healthier relationship with food and exercise, rather than just chasing a number on the scale. Over time she managed to change her mindset that only she could decide who she wanted to be.
Mufaro started to make small, sustainable changes like wearing clothes that she loved to boost her confidence. She began incorporating physical activities she enjoyed, like dancing and hiking, rather than forcing herself into workouts she didn’t like. She also focused on cooking nutritious meals that made her feel good and energized. Importantly, Mufaro worked on building self-compassion, recognizing that her worth wasn’t defined by her weight but by her efforts to improve her well-being. That is encompassing the choices she made.
Through this journey, Mufaro learned to appreciate her experiences as part of her growth whether bad or good. She embraced her past, understanding how it had shaped the person she is becoming. This shift in perspective helped her move forward to maintain a balanced approach to health and wellness, fostering a more positive self-image and a sustainable lifestyle.
How positive and challenging experiences influence our self-esteem and personal growth.
Our personal growth is shaped by both the good and the tough times we experience. When our life is going well, we have supportive family and friends and achieve our goals, it boosts our confidence and we begin to feel positive about the future.
At the same time, when we face difficulties or setbacks, we develop resilience and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.
Positive Experiences:
1. Achievements:
- Boost Self-Esteem: Life’s fulfilment, whether significant or small, contributes immensely to how we feel about ourselves. Successfully overcoming negative thought patterns or completing a difficult task reinforces our belief in our abilities and boosts confidence.
- Motivation: Achievements can boost our motivation and provide hope, even though motivation can fluctuate. Motivation helps us see new possibilities and improve our outlook on life. It gives a sense of accomplishment and encourages us to set and pursue new goals.
Challenging Experiences:
1. Hardships:
- Build Resilience: When all is good life seems easier and more enjoyable. We feel more optimistic and confident. However, facing and overcoming hardships strengthens resilience. Difficult situations teach us how to cope with adversity, develop problem-solving skills, and build inner strength. This resilience fosters a deeper understanding of our capabilities and limits.
- Shift Perspective: Hardships often lead to a shift in perspective, helping us appreciate the positive aspects of life more. Experiencing difficulties can enhance our gratitude and empathy, leading to a more balanced view of our circumstances. We have to allow ourselves to take a different outlook on circumstance or we can not survive.
Positive experiences build confidence, motivation, and a positive outlook, while challenging experiences foster resilience, self-discovery, and empathy.
Remember, every experience is a stepping stone on the path to a stronger, more resilient you.
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